Belated Fathers Day...

This is in response to Laura's post.
I did a wee bit of surfing and found some really neat stuff on what makes a father a father. Its not intercourse and then oh suprise unexpected baby! You're a father!
I think at that point...you're a "dad" I think you need to earn the title father.
This is what i think/found...A real dad is someone who truly loves you. Now that word love encompasses unconditional love. That means they are always there to help. They hurt when you hurt. That they are human but will admit their mistakes when wrong. That while they will always be protective, they will let you grow while making sure you do not stray to far off course. They do not judge but try to help yet, they will try to provide what is important to you while teaching you responsibility and values.


I think this is the better definition of father. Now, MY Dad didn't always show these values but i know they are there. He never really told me he was proud of me other than once or twice, but those were important moments for me. I thinnk a few times he said that he was wrong, but those are also hard things to do. I had to always work for what i wanted. My family wouldn't just get me a bike because i wanted it, i had to deserve it even if it was a christmas present. But i think thats why recieving that gift on Christmas was so special. It was more that i had accomplished something or got past a major barrier in my life.
I remember i didn't get an allowance like alll te other kids so i started work as soon as i was old enough, which was 13. I remember thinking it was crazy and unfair but now when i look back on all of this it helped me in the long run and as i become even more independant i wont have to be weaned off my parents. I think that however crazyness i sound that i make a little sense. My parents always thought (especially my dad) that the more strict you are with your child the more successful they will be later in life. He grew up with the same disipline from his father, and i'm sure my papa also got it from his father also.
I've never taken fondly of my father until now, i always thought he was harsh and that i would never have the whole "daddy's girl" whatever that is. I always thought that my dad didn't know HOW to be a father. Maybe its time i changed that.
Of course, like every dad he had his obscure moments, maybe more than other dads but that made me stronger no matter to the circumstances. In the long ru i'm glad that my father is my father, and i wish him a late Happy Fathers Day <3